Society when a woman has one child, "Motherhood is a wonderful blessing, congratulations." When a woman has two children, "Two children, you've got your hands full, but congratulations." When a woman has three children, "Whoops, was he/she a surprise?" When a woman has four or more, "Good heavens you're a baby factory, pushin' 'em out left and right!" My all-time favorite comment (referring to Michelle Dugar from "19 and Counting") - "Her uterus is going to fall out."
I am grateful for each one of my little blessings and I love being a mom even if society thinks I'm crazy.
Friday, August 24, 2012
The answer for world peace
I figured out the best way to take down tyrants and end all war. Instead of sending in troops with guns blazing we should send in a bunch of two year-olds. First, they will distract the bad guys with their cuteness (even biggest, baddest guys cannot resist the giggle of a toddler). After distracting them with cuteness they will start destruction, in less than five minutes all the plans and equipment will be destroyed. The bad guys will be so busy trying to keep them from destroying stuff they won't have time to plot evil schemes. They will try putting the toddlers to bed, thinking they will plot evilness after. However, by the time all of them are asleep in bed, the bad guys will be so exhausted that instead of finishing their work all they will want to do is check Facebook and go to bed. And there you have it, world peace through exhaustion instead of annihilation.
Monday, April 30, 2012
Finding Joy
At the Relief Society (church women organization) conference on Saturday the the theme was, "Finding Joy in the Season of Your Life." Or basically finding joy with whatever God sends your way. Since God is good He gave me a chance to try it out this weekend. Saturday night at about midnight we discovered that our fridge was no longer working. Fortunately my parents live close by and still happened to be awake and just so happen to have a second fridge. Today we spent the majority of the day looking for a fridge and discovered only one store in town could deliver the fridge by tomorrow, fortunately it was also the store with the cheapest prices. Since we have no food we went out of dinner. The people at the drive through window at were taking a long time to get our food so Chris turned off the car and when tried to start it up again it wouldn't. so he had to push the car out of the drive through. As he passed the window the Taco Bell employee so kindly told him to have a nice day. Amidst all the fun we discover that our 4 year old is running a fever.
So, remembering the lessons taught at the conference I am working on finding the joy in this season. Here is what I have so far. I get a new refrigerator. This is especially exciting since I have never had a new fridge before. I really wanted one with more space to meet the needs of our growing family. Instead of getting one large fridge we bought two smaller ones, which ended up being more space and less money. Another joy I discovered during this process is the ability my husband and I have to work through trials together and find humor in the challenges we face. I am so grateful to have someone who can laugh with me through the tough times.
While this wasn't huge trial it was a major inconvenience and my attitude about the situation made a big difference. At each moment we have a choice whether to find joy or misery, for me, I choose to joy.
So, remembering the lessons taught at the conference I am working on finding the joy in this season. Here is what I have so far. I get a new refrigerator. This is especially exciting since I have never had a new fridge before. I really wanted one with more space to meet the needs of our growing family. Instead of getting one large fridge we bought two smaller ones, which ended up being more space and less money. Another joy I discovered during this process is the ability my husband and I have to work through trials together and find humor in the challenges we face. I am so grateful to have someone who can laugh with me through the tough times.
While this wasn't huge trial it was a major inconvenience and my attitude about the situation made a big difference. At each moment we have a choice whether to find joy or misery, for me, I choose to joy.
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Highs and Lows
I came to a very important conclusion on Sunday. I was talking with my younger sister, she was going through a bit of a hard time and was wondering if maybe her hormones were out of whack or if she might be experiencing depression. She originally came to me for advice concerning some herbs she might be able to take that would help with either of the aforementioned maladies. As we talked it occurred to me that she wasn't experience depression or hormone fluctuation. What she was experiencing were the highs and lows that everyone experiences in life.
Dr. Christopher theorized that our bodies operate on a cycle of seven's. Seven days, seven week, seven months, seven years. On the seventh of each cycle our bodies need to rest and we experience sort of a breakdown. I think that this ties into life's up and downs. Every so often I experience a so-called breakdown. I'm tired, worn out, not motivated. I want a vacation and am longing for a break but small breaks in the evening are never quite enough. I feel a need for change. I no longer want to do the things that I normally do, dishes, laundry, basic care of the house and family. Basically all responsibilities of a mom. These feelings are followed by feelings of inadequacy and failure. I feel like a failure because I am not the kind of mom I think I should be, because I am tired of being a mom. This is about when I hit rock bottom and find a way to turn around. For me, the bounce back occurs when I kneel down and have a heart-to-heart talk with God. This helps me find a new joy and motivation and I return to my usual productive self.
Until my conversation with my sister I thought I was the only one to experience these "lows." But I'm not. My sister-in-law was sitting in on the conversation and said she also experienced these lows, which led me to the above conclusion. It also helped me realize that when I hit these lows that I don't need to get down on myself for not taking care of my family, I need to recognize it for what it is - my body telling me that it's time to take a break.
Dr. Christopher theorized that our bodies operate on a cycle of seven's. Seven days, seven week, seven months, seven years. On the seventh of each cycle our bodies need to rest and we experience sort of a breakdown. I think that this ties into life's up and downs. Every so often I experience a so-called breakdown. I'm tired, worn out, not motivated. I want a vacation and am longing for a break but small breaks in the evening are never quite enough. I feel a need for change. I no longer want to do the things that I normally do, dishes, laundry, basic care of the house and family. Basically all responsibilities of a mom. These feelings are followed by feelings of inadequacy and failure. I feel like a failure because I am not the kind of mom I think I should be, because I am tired of being a mom. This is about when I hit rock bottom and find a way to turn around. For me, the bounce back occurs when I kneel down and have a heart-to-heart talk with God. This helps me find a new joy and motivation and I return to my usual productive self.
Until my conversation with my sister I thought I was the only one to experience these "lows." But I'm not. My sister-in-law was sitting in on the conversation and said she also experienced these lows, which led me to the above conclusion. It also helped me realize that when I hit these lows that I don't need to get down on myself for not taking care of my family, I need to recognize it for what it is - my body telling me that it's time to take a break.
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